Slowly, then all at once

Chelsie, Female, 16, England Content note: mention of rape/sexual assault I always had little crushes on boys through middle and high school, but if we were ever to become ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’, things got weird. With the first few boyfriends, I completely avoided them in order to not have to do ‘touchy relationship stuff’. In year…

The First Date

Stephany, 44, female I never had a boyfriend in high school, not even a crush in middle school. I had my first date when I was twenty-one, although it was quite unintentional. This guy and I worked together at our local grocery store. One day he asked if I wanted to go to the movies.…

Completing the Remaing Part of Me

Jose, male, 20, Peru. I started questioning my sexuality back in my first years of high school, when lots of my classmates suddenly got girlfriends (I should add that I attended an all-boys school) that they would brag about. They obviously had a different and “better” status now that they were not single: they weren’t…

My Ascent Into Queerness

Kayla, female, 20, United States. I never really cared about dating when I was younger. I was literally the only person in the sixth grade at my elementary school who still thought kissing was gross. And I kept that mentality until ninth grade (though in the seventh grade I agreed to be someone’s girlfriend, but…

Trying To Fix Myself

Content note: this story contains talk about rape. Marten, male, 27, Canada. When I was in high school I was pretty busy with school work. When I got to college I became crazy busy. So much work to do, it was crazy overwhelming. I figured I would start to try to date: I had never…

How I Met My Boyfriend

Siggy, 25, United States. In my last year of college, I discovered queer student groups. It was over too soon. And then when I went to grad school, I discovered that many queer groups are not like the undergrad groups. People don’t go to these groups to learn more about social justice, or queerness. They…