An Asexual in a Sexual World

Cathy, 20, female, United States I knew I was asexual before I even hit puberty. In elementary school people use to pretend they were getting married at recess, even kissing the person. People use to say that this person was their boyfriend or girlfriend as young as third grade, and I didn’t understand the reasoning…

Four Friends, Four Sexualities

Veronica, 22, female, Canada My group of friends has a wide variety of sexual orientations: E is a lesbian, M is a hypersexual heterosexual, A is bisexual, and I am asexual. Now, the four of us have been best friends since the 7th grade (we were about 12 years old when we first met). Throughout…

Outed to my Mom

Zaiya, 16, United States. My brother didn’t mean any harm. He didn’t think he was doing wrong. He still doesn’t and if I brought it up with him he’d probably dodge the subject. When my brother outed me to my mom it was just another thing. I had been preparing to come out to her…

An Asexy Teen’s Adventure

Charlie, agender, 14, England. When I was twelve/thirteen, I read a book called Quicksilver. One of the main characters – Tori – comes out to a friend (when he starts hitting on her) as asexual. Seeing as Tori rather lacked any emotions, it did not register within my brain that humans could be asexual in…

I’m Not… Straight?

Casey, female, 21, United States. It wasn’t until I broke up with my boyfriend that I realized I may not be entirely heterosexual. I owe part of my self-discovery to the tumblr community. That’s where I learned that there were other sexualities and gender identities than just the two I knew, and it was simultaneously…

Completing the Remaing Part of Me

Jose, male, 20, Peru. I started questioning my sexuality back in my first years of high school, when lots of my classmates suddenly got girlfriends (I should add that I attended an all-boys school) that they would brag about. They obviously had a different and “better” status now that they were not single: they weren’t…

Asexy Kink

Emily, female, 22, United States. I have known that I am asexual since I was 20 and my then-boyfriend broke up with me for “not thinking he was hot.” It was at that point that I realized that there was truly something different about the way I interacted with other people. From there my story…

How I Came to Know What I Am

Svar, genderfluid, United States. I used to think I was just a prudish straight girl. I used think I was just really messed up and not meant for any kind of intimacy with anyone (quite frankly, I still feel this way sometimes). While others around me were going through puberty and swooning over celebrities’ bodies,…