Laura’s Story

Content note: this story includes references to threats of sexual violence. Laura, female, 23, Latvia. I have been asexual my whole life, since the age of five. I always felt different from others. I thought that I was sick, that there was something wrong with me, and that I was the only one on this…

It’s All Gray

Olivia, female, 23, United States. When I was 14, I started dating. It was as much a surprise to me as anyone else. I liked the guy, sure, but I never expected anything to happen but flirting. He was two years older than I was, and he wanted sexuality in the worst way. When he…

Zeke’s Story

Zeke, male, 23, United States. I think I had known I was asexual since before I had hit puberty, even though I did not have a word for what I was until I was well into my freshman year of college. It was during my time at university that I also came to realize I…

Pilar’s Story

Pilar, female, 22, Spain. I guess I’ve been like this all my life. During my childhood and early adolescence I didn’t even pay any attention to the subject of sex. It’s true that I’ve always felt different from other people, being shy, quiet and interested in completely different things, especially to the other girls. But…

My journey to identifying as asexual

Quinoa, female, 20, United States. When I was in middle school and much of high school, I didn’t really think I was that different. Sure, I didn’t date people, but I thought the people around me were dating and having sex mostly because of peer pressure. I didn’t want any part of dating or romance,…

How I Met My Boyfriend

Siggy, 25, United States. In my last year of college, I discovered queer student groups. It was over too soon. And then when I went to grad school, I discovered that many queer groups are not like the undergrad groups. People don’t go to these groups to learn more about social justice, or queerness. They…

Anonymous’ Story

Anonymous, female, 15, Canada. I’m a fifteen year old girl, which is a pretty typical age for a lot of people to start considering more in depth what they would like to describe themselves as as, well, a person. Personally, I’ve never been open about my sexuality. Not in a way that I’m embarrassed about…