November 7th, 2013…

Caitlin, 17, female, United States At lunch one day of my senior year, my friend was explaining the drama of some boy. She mentioned a girl was asexual and how she didn’t want to date because she didn’t like people. Now I’m one of those people who will wait until they get home to google…

On Being Invisibly Demisexual

purpleandgrey, 28, female, United States For the past few years, my story has primarily been about being invisibly ace. I’m a cisgender demisexual woman in a committed relationship with a cisgender sexual man. To all outward appearances, our relationship is indistinguishable from a normative heterosexual relationship. But this is the really strange part: to all…

The First Date

Stephany, 44, female I never had a boyfriend in high school, not even a crush in middle school. I had my first date when I was twenty-one, although it was quite unintentional. This guy and I worked together at our local grocery store. One day he asked if I wanted to go to the movies.…

All the World’s ‘A-Gray’ Stage

Hazel, 19, female, United States “Are you okay with kissing?” our script writer asked. All of us nodded. I could handle a bit of kissing, right? “Good! I’ll see you all tomorrow!” Our college was doing its annual 24 hour theatre project, where a writer would spend 12 hours writing a 10 minute play and…

An Asexual in a Sexual World

Cathy, 20, female, United States I knew I was asexual before I even hit puberty. In elementary school people use to pretend they were getting married at recess, even kissing the person. People use to say that this person was their boyfriend or girlfriend as young as third grade, and I didn’t understand the reasoning…

Four Friends, Four Sexualities

Veronica, 22, female, Canada My group of friends has a wide variety of sexual orientations: E is a lesbian, M is a hypersexual heterosexual, A is bisexual, and I am asexual. Now, the four of us have been best friends since the 7th grade (we were about 12 years old when we first met). Throughout…

Outed to my Mom

Zaiya, 16, United States. My brother didn’t mean any harm. He didn’t think he was doing wrong. He still doesn’t and if I brought it up with him he’d probably dodge the subject. When my brother outed me to my mom it was just another thing. I had been preparing to come out to her…

An Asexy Teen’s Adventure

Charlie, agender, 14, England. When I was twelve/thirteen, I read a book called Quicksilver. One of the main characters – Tori – comes out to a friend (when he starts hitting on her) as asexual. Seeing as Tori rather lacked any emotions, it did not register within my brain that humans could be asexual in…